It’s so tempting to just keep your head down and plough on hoping your body will come good and you will be able to become a parent.
We’ll try again next month, we could be lucky, you never know!
If you have been trying for over a year and there is still no bun in the oven, then somethings wrong.
Ignoring the fact will definitely help you get through the day, so it has its upside, but as strategy it’s useless. Alas this is what most people with infertility are doing!
On the other side of the road – you might have taken one step further and acknowledged your plight, and if so well done, it’s not an easy thing to admit to yourself, but if ‘facing up to it’ means going to the doc for help, taking drugs, or quitting smoking – OK – it’s better than nothing, but if that’s all you are willing to do then you are still keeping your head down and ploughing on hoping your body will come good. You’d need to be VERY lucky for this to work.
It may be true that you are infertile but facing up to the truth means more than just acknowledging it, it means really looking hard at your past to see what it is you have been doing all this time that has derailed your fertility. It also means taking a hard look at your future life to see what it is you really want. If you don’t really want kids, then I hope we can all agree that you should have shared this with your spouse long before they became your spouse.
If you do really want kids, then this is when the consequences of facing up to the truth get real for you. You want something your body won’t allow you to have.
You can solve this problem – philosophically speaking you need to alter the inner terrain of your body so that it gives you permission to have kids.
You can restore your fertility, but you can’t restore it by staying the way you are, that’s the truth.