A wonderfully humorous paragraph by a patient of the famous Dr Beer (RIP) recounting her memory of the crazy days women go through after IVF transfers:
“After 2 paranoid weeks of checking everything…nada…no HCG reading…not even a hint of pregnancy. I hadn’t drunk any coffee, hardly touched red wine, walked the dog daily, eaten broccoli and generally tried hard to keep in good shape. I’d done everything right! Finally, after 2 days of abject misery I had to do something - so I signed up for emergency acupuncture and hypnotherapy” --
Such is the mindset of a lot of women who are on the roller-coaster of fertility treatment.
But I’m here to tell you…all of the above stuff may be good to do, but it’s not even close to a home run.
When I hear people on online fertility forums say “We tried everything to get pregnant - nothing works” I want to pull their hair.
But luckily that urge soon gives way to a feeling of compassion for them and for the struggle they are going through.
If you have ongoing infertility, or a series of miscarriages, or failed IVF’s - you need to let go of simplistic notions and be prepared to tumble deep into the rabbit hole to learn what your body is trying to tell you, and you need to do it fast.
You need to be prepared to go where you haven’t gone before. Action alone won’t get a bun in the oven, you need a plan based on a proper understanding of what's actually happening inside you.
If you’ve already tried lots of ‘things’ with no success, then you may need to rethink your plan.